Beware of the Rattlesnakes in Your Life! (3)

Beware of the Rattlesnakes in your life! (3)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, I will wrap up this article on the rattlesnakes in our lives. Hopefully, this helps in dealing with those people who could be a problem for you.

I got back in my truck, drove back home, and felt like a ton of bricks was lifted off my shoulders. So, my question to you is this, who are the rattlesnakes in your life? Are they friends, co-workers, family members, maybe your parents or kids? Can you identify the rattlesnakes immediately or have a suspicion on who they are? If you absolutely know who they are, why are you hanging around them, what purpose do they serve in your relationship with them? Are you fearful of the consequences if you break off the relationship? At some point and time, you need to stop hanging around snakes. They’re not good for you; they mean you harm. A baby rattlesnake is just as dangerous as a big one, and they bite too. How many times do you have to be bitten by a snake to know that maybe, just maybe, you should move on?

I suggest that you hang around good people who care for you and about you. You want people that encourage you to grow in your life. I suggest that when you hear people who are up to no good, that you see the poison in their talk and actions, leave those kinds of friends immediately.

I can recall a friend of mine back in my hometown who seemed to have it all together. He was a family man, a churchgoer, a great job, and well respected in the business community. I always enjoyed our talks and his country boy humor. He was funny and made you laugh. But, behind his eyes, there was something he was hiding, I could sense it; something just wasn’t right. I couldn’t put my finger on it. I was overly cautious in what I said and shared. Then one day, he asked me to do him a favor. I listened to what he wanted and immediately said no way, I was shocked by what he told me. He was a poisonous snake, and I was done with our friendship. Sometimes you have to be quick and end a relationship that has potentially a bad outcome.

In closing, I want to give you a heads up about some people who are outright bad for you and need to be called rattlesnakes. Do you know who they are? If you do, do yourself a favor and end that relationship and move on. There are a lot of good people who would love to be a friend to you.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Boundaries in Dating,” By Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Do you feel like you’re living in a rattlesnake relationship and want help in deciding your next steps? Do you need help trying to figure out who you are married to and why they treat you the way they do? Do you want to know more about the motivations of the rattlesnake individual? Do you want help in managing and understanding your ups and downs with an unhealthy partner? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (17)

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (17)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, we will discover how yellows operate and how much fun they can be to the rest of the colors in the colorcode. Yellows love fun, that’s their motto!

Yellows like to have a lot of fun and enjoy their life no matter what they are doing. Simply put yellows know how to have fun. They are always looking forward to what tomorrow brings. Yellows are notorious for their spontaneous ways. When I get the hankering to do something fun and at the spur of the moment, I’ll call a friend at 6:30 on a Saturday morning and ask if they want to moment and go with me to my favorite donut shop. I usually get the answer “Yes” and we will meet in a parking lot or I pick them up and we head down to the donut shop. I will share my day and ask about theirs and it ends up be a great time spent together. We laugh and enjoy the morning together. Let’s face it, yellows are good to have in your life.

Now yellows do have their weaknesses, and we need to look at those. Yellows have little regards to your boundaries and theirs as well. They can be messy and disorganized with their homes. Their personal appearance is neat and clean. Yellows are self-centered individuals. Many times, they look at the big issues facing them and will find some excuse not to address whatever the problem is, they are easily distracted and find something else to focus on.

Yellows are wanting to experience all that life has to offer, and trust me they will find it. Yellows have great attitudes towards new ideas, change, relationships, jobs, and their future. Yellows look for the good in people and look past the faults in others. When you get into a discussion with a yellow they can share what’s on their hearts with honesty and compassion. Yellows bring optimistic hope to those who are struggling with life, a yellow will make you laugh, giggle, and enjoy life. That’s in their nature!

 Here are some yellow strengths: highly optimistic, loves to volunteer, sees life as an experience, adventurous and daring, thinks quickly on their feet, easy to talk to, comfortable with people, able to express self, loves conversation, very flexible, people oriented, high energy, inspires people, highly entertaining, turns crisis into comedy. These are just a few of the positive traits for a yellow.

In closing, yellow personalities are much needed in todays world. People need yellows to encourage them to be optimistic, forward thinking, and to enjoy life to the fullest.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (16)

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (16)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, we will discover how yellows operate and how much fun they can be to the rest of the colors in the colorcode. Yellows love fun, that’s their motto!

The one part of the yellows that I didn’t agree with, and this is me as a yellow saying this, I’m sure there are many yellows who would fit in this category, is they can be self-centered and don’t commit to very much. Yellows like to focus on their needs, wants, and desires. It’s all about them. For yellows, committing to something means being focused for a certain amount of time, and yellows find that hard to do. They can be thinking of other things to do, they can’t focus for long periods of time. They can lose interest rather quickly before committing to a project.

Yellows are naïve and trusting, I have to say as a yellow, I’ve been burned by people that I have trusted. We can be so naïve that we get taken advantage of, and trust people do that to yellows without the yellow realizing it. We make commitments without thinking of the consequences or without thinking it through. We are so happy to trust people that we get caught in our own naivety and get burned in the process. We can hide our hurt feelings by our joking around and our quick smiles and laughter. We don’t show our emotional hurts very easily.

I’ve never sought to be a popular person growing up, it never dawned or interested me. I just wanted to mind my own business and get on with life. When growing up, I could pretty much relate to all ages, and I still do. I had this uncanny knack for being able to express my feelings and see others who needed to be heard. Yellows like to engage with all kinds of people. People like being around yellows because they make people feel important, and they genuinely do. Yellows have many friends and don’t like controlling their friends. Many people want yellows as their friend, yellows are not demanding like the other colors in the colorcode. They are pretty much laid back.

Yellows are optimistic

The one thing I like about yellows is that their so optimistic. They wake up ready to start the day and enjoy those around them. They know that things will work out no matter had bad the situation is. I had a good friend of mine who was a yellow. His wife served him with divorce papers, his initial reaction was shock of course. He wanted to save the marriage, and he tried, but alas, it was over with and not to be. He said life goes on, and he worked on becoming a better person, he met a wonderful woman and married her, he is now as happy as I have ever seen him. He landed on his feet and made a good life for himself and his wife. I have to say throughout his divorce he remained in great spirits and laughed a lot.

Next week, we will continue to discover how yellows add spice to all the colorcode personalities. Are you learning anything about yellows and how to enjoy them as friends or a spouse?

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (1)  By Dr. Michael Brooks June 1994 Denton, Texas. My Saturday morning started hot and sunny in the great state of Texas. That afternoon I was working at a men’s event at North Texas State University stadium. I had just met with Tom Landry, former head coach of the Dallas Cowboys, for a few minutes in one of the stadium offices. Looking back, I have to say life was good, exciting, and I had many aspirations of an exciting future ahead of me. Little did I know that my life would change forever in just a matter of minutes. After my meeting with coach Landry, I was asked to go outside and look at the incoming storm that suddenly appeared on the horizon. The clouds were dark green and ugly black. This was going to be a Texas storm that would change my life and many others forever. This storm hit with all its fury with large hail, lightning, high winds, while men ran for their lives throughout the stadium. The stage was full of musicians, the band, and motivational speakers just before the storm hit. I saw them running for cover too. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:
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Get Out of My Way! By Dr. Michael Brooks

Get Out of My Way! By Dr. Michael Brooks Have you ever had someone cut in line in front of you, while grocery shopping or waiting to order at a fast-food restaurant? What was your reaction? Did you get angry, did you say something and let them know you were not happy? I’m sure most of us would not be overjoyed if that happened to us. It has happened to me plenty of times, and although I usually do not say anything, I watch the people and see how they react to the individual who cut in line in front of them.I learned a valuable lesson several years ago about some of the reasons why people do this. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:
Get Out of My Way! By Dr. Michael Brooks

It’s not worth getting angry when people cut in front of you!.

Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks This week, I want to talk about physical touch, and how that can be an important love language if your spouse loves to touch. Can a marriage be built-up by knowing the five love languages? Absolutely. If you learn about the five love languages and how they can apply to your spouse and actually use them, you will see your marriage grow stronger and your communication improves.I ask this question at my seminars and when seeing clients at my office, “Who loves holding hands?” And I’ll ask my readers, do you? I know physical touch is important to so many of you. I know many couples who connect while driving to do errands or road trips and they will hold hands. Physical touch comes in many forms, a kiss, a pat on the back, hand-holding, giving a massage, arm in arm, leaning on each other, hugs, and physical intimacy. If you think about it, young children love being hugged by their mothers, that’s the way moms and babies connect. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:
Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks Many couples that I work with are in a loveless marriage, and it’s so sad to see. I’d have to say most individuals truly want to know that they are loved by their partner. If you have to ask your spouse if they love you, your relationship is in big trouble. We all want that feeling of being loved and appreciated by our spouse. I don’t think its all that hard to show someone that you really care and love them. Some children never saw that growing up in their homes they were raised in. So, what examples did they have growing up or they could relate to.I love the book the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, I use it in my practice all the time. It opens the doors to a healthy and enriched marriage. In my humble opinion, the biggest reason for most divorces is the lack of communication. It boils down to a couple’s ability to share and talk about the good times in their marriage or things that need to be worked on…. To continue reading this story click on the following link below:
Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks