Facing Your Giants (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue my article on Facing Your Giants. First, let’s look at what causes some of the giants we face. So my question for you today is: what are the Giants you’re facing and need help confronting today? You may have one or several Giants that control you; over the next several weeks, we’ll address several of them you may be facing. First, I will share with you one of my biggest Giants: Abandonment. I was raised in a military family, and we moved worldwide. We never stayed in one place very long, and it was rare that you would make any real friends because you’d soon move to another base. My parents were always at officers’ parties in the evening, and my sister and I were dropped off at the babysitters on the base. As soon as my sister and I found out that another night was going to be spent at the babysitter’s, I would beg not to go. I was only six years old and remembered feeling abandoned by my mom and dad. That was a painful childhood memory and stayed with me until I finally dealt with the problem. So, I’ll sit back and reminisce and ask myself, what are the Giants I have stored in the back of my mind and want to get rid of? I knew I needed help and wanted to have a clear conscience. So what are your giants, and what are your next steps to deal with them?

I will cover the ones I know personally and have helped my clients deal with in a one-on-one counseling/coaching session. Let’s talk if you relate to any of these and want to come to some resolution in eliminating them. I have some great idea’s on how to resolve them. Don’t let your Giants hold you back from becoming all you can be or do. Let’s look at these Giants and how to deal with them.

Fear, what are you fearful of? Fear can hold you back in many ways. It can prevent you from moving forward in your family, life, and work. Here is a definition of fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Fear has many names and strikes many of us at all levels. The fear of death is very real for most people, especially people over the age of 60 years old. When I talk to people about death, I ask them what is their biggest fear, believe it or not, dying alone! I am a pretty positive person, and I ask them about family and friends and do they have close people in their lives. Then I ask them about their health, are they exercising and eating right? I give them a talk about how they can improve their health by living a healthy lifestyle. Fear of death can be looked at in a logical way, and solutions can be found if only you focus on finding answers. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants and see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, and confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head-on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to Zoom with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call at 303.880.9878! You’ll be glad you did!

Beware of the Rattlesnakes in Your Life! (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Beware of the Rattlesnakes in your life! (2)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, you’ll learn about different kinds of human venom people use against you and others, some of its subtle, and others right in your face. Learn to know the difference and how to deal with it.

The human rattlesnakes we encounter have different venom’s. Their venoms can be bitterness, anger, gossip, slander, hate speech, rage, greed, lust, ungratefulness, lies, vengefulness; indeed, this is a long list, and I’m sure you could add several of your own if you wanted. Rattlesnakes can have bad attitudes, lack self-discipline, be lazy, unmotivated, and uncaring.

It’s easy to spot the rattlesnakes in your life; they are the ones who sow the seed of discourse. They like causing fights, arguments and seem to enjoy watching people struggle with the poison they spread. I have shared about one of the rattlesnakes that I personally dealt with, the town gossip! I was dealing with one of the most wicked women in my small town. She was vengeful to the core and hated to be confronted. Many would simply allow her to attack them because they wanted nothing to do with her and her beehive companions. The rumors they spread about townsfolk would have the whole town in turmoil. People avoided her in the grocery store, department stores, parks even in the church. It was like a scene out of an old western movie.

Then for some reason, my privacy became her business and her group of friend’s business. Her poison began to work on me, slowly but effectively. I became angry, upset and wanted to get some revenge on this woman. Then I realized that’s what she wanted; she wanted to see me get angry and upset. It was like a drug to her, getting high on the hurts she caused her innocent victims.

I decided that I would confront this woman on my terms, and I would do it with my dignity intact. I didn’t want to stoop to her level and trust me, that thought crossed my mind several times. Remember, when handling rattlesnakes, you have to be extremely careful. I made a plan to confront her in a public setting; I picked the grocery store on a Friday evening. I knew many of the people who shopped there and would support me in my action to confront. This rattlesnake had to be stopped.

Tom, the grocery store manager, had been one of her victims in the past. She destroyed his marriage with untrue rumors. He called me that Friday evening and said she was there with a friend of hers, another town gossip. I drove over to the grocery store, parked my truck and said a quick prayer, and walked in. I waited for her to check out and walk to the entrance of the store. That’s when I called her out. I was nervous and said my peace; several people stopped and listened to what I had to say. I saw tom off in the distance with his arms folded and a big smile on his face. I detailed the lies she told and asked her why? The friend that was with her didn’t stick around and left quickly. After I was done, I heard some people clapping and others laughing at her. She left in a huff; I never had a problem with that woman again.

Next week, we will continue with the rattlesnakes in your life and relationships. Learn how to deal with these volatile people you encounter in your families, friendships, and work.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Do you feel like you’re living in a rattlesnake relationship and want help in deciding your next steps? Do you need help trying to figure out who you are married to and why they treat you the way they do? Do you want to know more about the motivations of the rattlesnake individual? Do you want help in managing and understanding your ups and downs with an unhealthy partner? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (2)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

Have you ever wondered why someone, maybe a family member, a friend, even a co-worker, treats you so badly?  I certainly have, their behavior puzzles me and leaves me wondering why are some of these people so angry, defensive, mad, while other people we know are joking around when something just serious just happened. Then you have those who are so sensitive and serious, while others will not argue or fight and will avoid conflicts with you at all costs.

Hopefully, this article will make you want to do something about the people who make you feel miserable, worthless, and not valued. How would you like to know the hidden secrets in dealing with these people and having a good relationship with them? It can happen; you just have to learn what people’s motives are, what drives them to do the things they do. In my Counseling and coaching practice, I see many people struggling with relationships and, more often than not, are frustrated, tired, and just want to understand why people act the way they do.I have a cousin of mine that I’ve known for several years. He’s had his quirks that I didn’t understand these past several years, and now I see them as his issues and not mine.

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When Your Anger Controls You! (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

When Your Anger Controls You! (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks Are you struggling with anger issues? Today Dr. Mike will cover different kinds of anger that people face. A question for Dr. Mike, are there different kinds of anger? Yes, to answer your question: several experts have published contradicting lists of anger types, but some widely accepted forms of anger include: The common one that I deal with is Judgmental anger. These people are the people who judge, act as a jury, then become the executioner, and are extremely opinionated. Once they have judged you, seldom do they admit they could be wrong about the person they are judging. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:
When Your Anger Controls You! (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Zoom Meeting on Co-Dependant Relationships and Need Help? Friday, June 12th 2:00 PM

Are You Stuck In a Co-Dependant Relationship and Need Help? Friday, June 12th 2:00 PM On Friday, June 12th there will be a zoom meeting on dealing with those in co-dependent relationships. This meeting will be hosted by Mike Brooks and Rana Justice. Please join us Fridays, June 12, 1:00pm Pacific, 2:00pm Mountain, 3:00pm Central, 4pm Eastern time, via Zoom. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82321940460?p … z09Meeting ID: 823 2194 0460Password: 507459 Are you co-dependent on someone in your life and wonder if it’s a healthy relationship that you’re in? Do you want to learn more about co-dependent relationships and how they affect you? Do you Have difficulty making decisions in a relationship? Do you Have difficulty in identifying your feelings? Do you Have difficulty communicating in a relationship? A codependent is someone who cannot function on their own and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, process, or substance. Many codependents place a lower priority on their own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.Do you identify with any of these? If you do, this is a great class to sit in on or be a part of. It’s free and a great way to get help if you need it. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82321940460?p … z09Meeting ID: 823 2194 0460Password: 507459

Show me That You Love me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks Many couples that I work with are in a loveless marriage, and it’s so sad to see. I’d have to say most individuals truly want to know that they are loved by their partner. If you have to ask your spouse if they love you, your relationship is in big trouble. We all want that feeling of being loved and appreciated by our spouse. I don’t think its all that hard to show someone that you really care and love them. Some children never saw that growing up in their homes they were raised in. So, what examples did they have growing up or they could relate to.I love the book the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, I use it in my practice all the time. It opens the doors to a healthy and enriched marriage. In my humble opinion, the biggest reason for most divorces is the lack of communication. It boils down to a couple’s ability to share and talk about the good times in their marriage or things that need to be worked on…. To continue reading this story click on the following link below:
Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Seasons of Darkness (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Seasons of Darkness (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks When was the last time you struggled with some kind of emotional, physical, or spiritual pain? How long did it last? What were the causes of it? Who did it effect and why? I know I’m asking a lot of questions, but their important questions that need answers and from you and only you! Searching for answers with boldness and truthfulness from you, will help you find a way out of the darkness. Seasons of darkness can last for days, months, and even years if allowed. ​To continue reading this article go to the link below:
Seasons of Darkness (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks