Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks Many couples that I work with are in a loveless marriage, and it’s so sad to see. I’d have to say most individuals truly want to know that they are loved by their partner. If you have to ask your spouse if they love you, your relationship is in big trouble. We all want that feeling of being loved and appreciated by our spouse. I don’t think its all that hard to show someone that you really care and love them. Some children never saw that growing up in their homes they were raised in. So, what examples did they have growing up or they could relate to.I love the book the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, I use it in my practice all the time. It opens the doors to a healthy and enriched marriage. In my humble opinion, the biggest reason for most divorces is the lack of communication. It boils down to a couple’s ability to share and talk about the good times in their marriage or things that need to be worked on…. To continue reading this story click on the following link below:
You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (4) By Dr Michael Brooks This week, we will conclude the series on “You Can’t Run Forever, Trust me.” Many of you send me emails on what kind of articles you’d like me to write and comment on. Let me know, and I’ll make it happen. Thank you for being faithful followers. So, Dr Mike what if I go to the person I’ve hurt and have avoided for days, months or even years and they want nothing to do with me? My word of advice is this; at least you tried. That’s why I suggest, write a letter, email, or a phone call even better yet, is in person if at all possible. If the person is deceased, or you can’t locate them and you have tried all avenues in locating them (sincerely and honestly tried) then write them a long letter, after reading it, destroy it. I would consider the matter closed. You’ve done what you needed to do. It’s time for you to move on and live your life, no more running away or avoiding people. You are not alone in running away from life’s problems, we all have done it, you, me, our family, and our friends. Just think how many wonderful things you’ve missed out on by avoiding the people we love, all kinds of events, maybe weddings, family gatherings like Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, funerals, graduations. There is no reason for this. Make it happen, reconnect with those you love and admire. I say the hardest part in making reconnections is the worry “what will they say and think of me.” I liken this to my feelings about shots or IV’s, many of you know, I hate needles with a passion. When going in for surgery, I don’t dread the surgery itself, and I am fearful of the IV I get to prep me for surgery. I get anxious for days ahead of my surgery date, just over an IV. That’s the same feeling many get before they meet with someone they have been running away from, the IV effect… Now, there are some of you who want nothing to do with someone you are running away from, and there is a good reason for it. If you have been verbally, physically or sexually abused, then I get it and so do the rest of us. Then you need to stay away from those kinds of people. It’s best to just leave it alone. I don’t want you to stir up any trouble for yourself. Hopefully, you have gotten help from a counselor in dealing with those memories of your past. I can think of several entertainers who have run away from abusive relationships, and Tina Turner is the one that sticks in my mind. She endured beatings, death threats, verbal abuse on stage and at home. She finally had enough and ran away. She had good reasons to run from this type of man. Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk. Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!
You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks So, what keeps us from facing the hurts that we have inside us and don’t want to face? There are many reasons, and here are a few. I think this list includes pride, embarrassment, resentment, anger, shyness, nervousness, bitterness, and many more. I’m sure you could add several more names to this list that is holding you back from facing issues and has caused you to run away like an Olympic long-distance runner. Do you think it’s time to stop running away from your problems and deal with them? If running away from people and situations is keeping you awake at night, then take care of it? Some people are good at hiding their feelings from friends and family, but they can’t hide it from themselves, and that’s what really counts. You may be good at concealing deep down hurts, but the one person that it affects is you! You have to live with your feelings and your past. For some of you, that can be scary. There is hope for you, and you don’t have to live with “running away” from your problems any longer. There is hope for you, and for many of you it’s a lifeline of hope and grace. If you have hurt someone or acted out of anger and can’t face that individual, the time is now to face that person and do the right thing. If an apology is needed, do it, if you need to make things right, make it happen. Having peace of mind is well worth the effort. Believe it or not, you will feel so much better. Trying to avoid the people you hurt is not worth the embarrassment or resentment you are causing others. Life is to short to keep hiding and avoiding family members, friends and co-workers. Set yourself free from worrying about running into the people you’ve wounded. I guarantee you will run into them at one time or another. I will be honest with you, and there will be reasons why some people will not accept your sincere efforts in making things right. Some folks are just plain bitter, nothing you could do would make things better. Still try and ask for forgiveness in a letter or phone call. I would try it once, and if they reach out to you and want to talk, be gracious and meet with them. Don’t make excuses for your behavior; accept your responsibility in what you did, own up to it. You will feel so much better when you do. Next week, I will give you some tips that will help you face and defeat problems that have you running away from them. Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk. Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at email@example.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!
The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (4) By Dr Michael Brooks Putting others and friends ahead of your spouse is a deal-breaker. Believe it not, this is a big problem today. Many marriage partners have brothers and sisters who rate more than their spouse does. I have seen it with many of my clients, and I have done it as well, without knowing it. In my younger years, I grew up with really close friends and neglected those I’ve dated. I thought she get over it, and she didn’t. We didn’t last very long in that relationship…. To read the rest of this article go to the following link below:
The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (3) By Dr Michael Brooks Today’s article addresses some of the issues and why marriages break down, if you want to save your failing marriage, start learning the warning signs. Start paying attention to your spouse, boy this one is one of those irritating mostly for women, it seems like guys just don’t get it. A husband comes home from work, ignores the kids, and walks over to the TV and turns it on and starts watching TV. He pays no attention to his wife or kids. So, her thoughts are, honey, why not just say hi and ask how my day was! Even a simple acknowledgement of his wife would help the evening go better. When spouses feel neglected there is a potential problem in the making, and that is loneliness. Many spouses will stray if they continue to feel this way, they feel alone and left out…. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:http://idontwantthisdivorce.com/2019/11/the-fastest-way-to-end-your-marriage-3-by-dr-michael-brooks/
The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (2) By Dr Michael Brooks In today’s article, I believe that “The lack of communication in marriages today is a major reason for divorces.” Dr Mike Brooks. I have some suggestions for those of you who want to have a great marriage, (Work on it daily!) Please read and learn from these articles and how they can prevent divorce. Just being a spectator in your marriage will not work! Let’s look at the lack of communication and how that can destroy your marriage and any relationship for that matter! More often than not spouses seem to think that their better half can read their minds and know what to say and do. I have heard this over and over in my office several times. Here is a classic example. Wife says to the husband, “Honey did you put gas in my car?” Why, no I didn’t, why do you ask? “You always do and I was just reminding you that I need gas in my car. ”To continue reading this article go to the following link below:
The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (1) By Dr Michael Brooks I was watching a husband and wife argue over their crying son in a crowded restaurant. He wanted her to take him out and deal with the problem while he watched his football team on the TV. They went back and forth when she finally said “fine; we’ll talk about this when we get home!” He seemed so out of touch with the anger his wife was showing towards him. She walked out and never came back in, he seemed to be more interested in his football game than his family. I’d say this is more common with younger families today then it was a generation ago. Disconnect with your spouse, and you’ll surely find marital unhappiness. I know many of you are busy with your jobs, hobbies, electronics, but your family should take a priority and be number one and not at the bottom of your list. Marriage is hard work, we all know that. To continue reading this article go to the following link below: