I can remember the night that the police knocked on my door to tell me that my car was totaled. I was sleeping when I thought I heard something crash outside, I looked at my clock and it showed it was 12:37 AM, then I rolled over and went to bed. Then the knock at the door. I staggered to the door and opened it and saw two policemen. Mr. Brooks your car has been hit and its totaled. I said, what???? I looked outside and saw the car on it’s side. The officer said that they have been looking for the person who hit my car.

I got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, who could have done this I asked myself, and then take off without stopping. I was getting angry and wanted answers. They had none, and believe me, I wasn’t blaming anyone except the one who totaled my car.

The next few days, I was getting more frustrated with myself and the lack of answers from the police. I decided to go outside and have a good look for my own evidence. I found a trail of scrapes that were new and imbedded in the road, they went south from the spot where my car was hit. I called the police and asked for an officer to come over to the house. An officer showed up a little while later. I got in his squad car and we followed the scrapes for several miles, they waved from side to side of the road. The officer said that whoever made the these marks was drunk. We followed them to a farm house 12 miles from my house, and to a garage that had all the windows covered in cardboard. He said that we couldn’t enter the garage without a court order. All I knew was at the time that a drunk had totaled my car. I was steamed, we could not enter and see if the vehicle that hit my car was in the garage.

I had a difficult time forgiving the person who totaled my car, I wanted revenge, and wanted pay back. How could this person leave me without a car to get to work, and do my errands. I didn’t want any part of forgiving this person, they caused me a great inconvenience.

Has anyone else felt this way, I will not forgive this person for what they did to me? If you have, how have you dealt with it? What tips can you share with us. If you still carry unforgiveness, how do you deal with it? I know of people who have had loved ones murdered, and will not forgive. They live with the pain of a loved one who was taken from them.

Last night I went to a high school basketball game, as I sat and watched people enter the gym, I noticed several overweight and out of shape people walk by me. They didn’t appear to be very old, but they were certainly not taking care of themselves. When working at my clinic, I would encourage just about everyone to walk their way to health. So, here are a few benefits of walking your way to a healthier you!

• Walking helps you lose weight
• Walking helps your immune system
• Walking helps your heart health
• Walking helps slow down the aging process
• Walking reduces your cancer risk

Walking is a great way to enjoy the outdoors unless you use a treadmill at home or in a fitness center. When I wanted to lose some weight, I decided to try walking, its low impact, cost effective and fun for the entire group. I lost 50 pounds, felt great and had more energy then I had since playing football. Is there others who would care to share your success story.

I just talked to a client who was looking for a lost love when they were a teenager 20 years ago. They got on Classmates.com and searched, they called friends who might know where he was, but to no avail. I heard how she broke up with her long time boyfriend, and now looking back, regrets ending the relationship (she is divorced). I bet each of us has a regret over a past relationship that we ended. What should we do now, that its been years since we have been involved with that person? One thing not to do is not dwell on what could have been! Move on, look to your future and grow it.

I had a girlfriend in College that was a wonderful person, she was insightful, enjoyed doing things that I liked, would go to my softball games when home for summer break, and was caring. For some reason, I just thought it was time to move on. I broke off the relationship. What I did hurt me a great deal looking back, I think about what could have been, she was certainly was the kind of person that any guy would like to have in his life. My parents liked her, my friends thought she was fun to be around. Well, it wasn’t meant to be. I moved on and now am happy with my life. How many can’t let go of someone in their past? They dream about the lost love they could have had, well, folks it’s time to move on with your life. If you need help in getting over the regrets of your life, lets talk. I can help you! Here’s how: Sign up now for a free Life Coach consultation, there’s no cost, and no obligation. Just call, or go to applicablecoaching.com to set up a free Life Coach Telephone conference. You’ll be amazed at the results from even one session. And it’s free! Call 303.456.0555 or e-mail today!

I listened to a client last night rant and rave about how they wanted to get back at someone who hurt them. The tirade went on for about 20 minutes. As I listened I felt pretty sorry for this person. Then finally they stopped, probably too tired to continue, I asked them, what’s the pointin wanting revenge? You will only have temporary peace, then the guilt will eat you up, if you follow through with what you shared with me.

Revenge can be very consuming. Remember when you were in Junior High School or even in high school, if someone tried stealing your boyfriend or girlfriend away you were livid. You wanted all your friends to know what this person was trying to do you by stealing away the person you were interested in. You schemed, planned on how to get even. You felt better when your friends would stand beside you and help you get the revenge you wanted. They wanted a piece of the action as well.

Looking back, how foolish was that? I mean, revenge over a person that you dated and liked, and you wanted to hurt someone over that? Yet, as adults, many still want to get revenge over failed marriages, bad relationships, bad business deals, gossip, etc. They plan and scheme over how to inflict pain on someone unaware.

I have to say move on, never look back, if you are consumed by revenge, you better look over your priorities, revenge never pays, its something that only robs, and that is your dignity. If you need help in resolving your conflict, contact a Relationship coach who can help you through the process! I can help you with conflict resolution, and put the thought of revenge to rest!

How can you try Life Coaching and find out if it works for you?
Here’s how: Sign up now for a free Life Coach consultation, there’s no cost, and no obligation. Just call, or go to contact Mike link to set up a free Life Coach Telephone conference. You’ll be amazed at the results from even one session. And it’s free! Call 303.456.0555 today!

I am interested in how many of you have planned getting revenge but backed out and why?