When to call it quits
All relationships have there good and bad days, but when should you call it quits? How long must the suffering continue, how long will you allow it to continue? each one of us have been in a bad relationship, what made it so bad that you ended it? What were your warning signs, the red flags that made you bail? If you are not happy, and you dread being with the person your dating, then you have your answer. Start looking for another person to date. Here are some red flags that you need to pay attention to.
You keep getting excuses that they have other plans, and cannot spend time or see you. At the beginning of your relationship you called and talked for hours on the phone into the early morning hours, you used to text message each other throughout the day, you sent e-mails expressing your newfound feelings. Then all of a sudden the attention stops, and there is no time for you to do things together. You want to spend time with this person, but they don’t with you. Let them know that you are ready to move on if things don’t change.
They don’t seem to care about where the relationship is going, they don’t have any energy to make things happen. You have to keep making suggestions on where to go and what to do. You are always initiate the phone calls. You feel all the work is being done by you, when you ask for their idea’s on how to work together in making the relationship more exciting, they will never help with suggestions or idea’s. You want to spend time with your and their friends and family, they are not interested. You don’t see a future with this person, do yourself a favor, and move on, don’t waste your time.
You are always arguing, you nitpick at each other, finding faults and letting them know how they bug you with irritating habits. Fighting seems to be a way of life in your relationship. Some disagreement happens and is healthy, but when you dread being with the person that your dating, its time to move on, save yourself from the stress that you bring to each other.
You compare the person you are dating with someone in your past, or one of your friends has someone they are dating, and your interested in someone like the person they are with. When your at the grocery store you perk up when someone pays you attention. You start day dreaming about people you met at the office or party you just attended. You compare their interests, hobbies, looks to the person you are dating. Time to possibly move on.
There is no body communication between you, verbal or body language. They answer your questions with yes or no. You are constantly trying to draw answers out of them. they pretend that they cannot hear you will say “what did you say?” Will not look you in the eyes, will avoid smiling, will smirk when you laugh. Will not hold your hand, will avoid hugging you. Will avoid all body contact. What message are they sending you? Then you better ask what’s going on. It they don’t give you a satisfactory answer, its time to say “see ya later” and move on.
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