Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (8) By Dr. Michael Brooks

We will wrap up the color blue in this article. By now, you have learned a great deal about the blue personality and how important they are to have in your life. Why is it essential to have a blue personality in your life? I believe that they are one of the most enduring colors in the colorcode. They care and are empathetic, and listen well, are energetic, also creative, they love and enjoy closeness in relationships. All in all, they are just good people. Yes, they have their quirks, as we all do. Blues will enrich your life, and trust me, they will bring you a lot of peace and entertainment all at the same time. Blues rarely can tell a joke, and a lot of times, they don’t even get a joke. That will be the entertaining part of a relationship with a blue. I will tell my one blue friend a joke, and they will look at me, trying to figure if the joke was funny!

Here are some of the blues strengths: they are hard workers, always giving of themselves, highly disciplined, very good at deep conversation, very stable and dependable, they have a purpose, emotionally deep, very observant, they love working with children, is a loyal friend, considers spouse first when making decisions, contributes time to relationships, loyal to family, loves building on relationships!

If you’re a blue, these tips are for you: Make sure that those people who are in your family, spouse, work, co-workers, that they know your limits, sometimes blues will say yes, when they should say “NO”. Blues get way over their heads with a yes commitment. So let people know your boundaries and stick with them. This will prevent you from being taken advantage of and overwhelmed.

Don’t stress over your unmet expectations, manage your perfectionism, keep that in check. When dealing with unmet expectations, it’s easy to get overwhelmed, but stay focused and work on one detail at a time. Don’t be demanding and hard on yourself, that’s a waste of energy on your part.

Don’t keep dates, times of every interaction that you have with people. Learn to let go of past issues that you have had with people. There is no reason to keep those files in your head. Some people will upset you in life, but honestly, why give them any space in your mind. Cleanse your mind and get rid of bad memories, bad people, and move on with your life. You, as a blue, enrich so many of us, and we need you in our lives. Learn to let go and enjoy life.

Remember you can’t control every situation, some things are out of your hands. Realize that you can’t control other people, you can’t run other people’s lives. You can’t control what other people do. Can you control your boss at work? No, you can’t. Can you control your neighbor next door? NO, you can’t. Learn to relax and live with your color blue. You guys are amazing!

Next week, we will continue the series on the colorcode on the color white (Life’s peacekeepers).

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on The Colorcode this Thursday. If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send him your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication. If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment, and better employee hires for the company.

Other Zoom classes coming up: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a blue after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Why Do Women Cheat on Men? (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Do you see the common link here with the Facebook responses from last week’s article? Neglect and unmet expectations were high on the list of reasons women cheated? Relationships live and die on the vine if there are misunderstandings and unmet expectations in the relationship. I didn’t share all the responses, but many were not out of the norm. Men, you better take note on why women cheat.

• “I think that perhaps they are trying to fill a void that their husbands have neglected…. not just talking about sex, a much deeper emotional need…..people get complacent in relationships and don’t continue to nurture each other as they did before……”
• “Being taken for granted. Lack of appreciation and significance. This is what I’ve heard most frequently.”

You don’t have to be married to have someone cheat on you. It can be your boyfriend, girlfriend as well. I know it causes broken hearts that may last a lifetime. It takes a toll on your emotional, and physical health and even spiritual health for some. Cheating isn’t a new concept or an idea over the past 500 years. This has been a problem since ancient of days.

Cheating spouses are lacking something infipreventing future affairs,  in their marriages.

Looking back at the man who called me and after several minutes of speaking with this man, I think he said it best when he made a bold statement. “I am probably the reason she had wandering eyes. I wasn’t there for her when she needed me.” I think he was spot on with this statement. We want to be a good provider for our spouse; (men and women) it’s in our DNA for the most part. Yes, we have some bad apples that make marriage hard and difficult at times.

So you might ask yourself this question, what do I do if I’m a part of the cheating statistics? You’re not alone I’m sad to say. Both men and women are hurt by affairs. If you’re the cheater or the one cheated on there is help for you. You don’t have to struggle alone. If you know that you’re still in love with your spouse, and you want to work through this issue of infidelity and save your marriage, you can contact Dr. Mike and work on a plan to help restore your relationship. Forgiveness is key to move forward and make your marriage work. There needs to be trust reestablished and honest communication to heal a marriage. If you want to save your marriage contact, Dr. Mike, now!

Women, have you cheated on your spouse and you need to talk to someone who can help you sort out the reasons you cheated? Do you want help in preventing future affairs? Are you ready to move on and want to know how to forgive yourself and put your affair behind you? If you answered yes to any of these questions set up an appointment with Dr. Mike and get the help you need. Call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!