Are You Allowing Your Past to Poison Your Future (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Allowing Your Past to Poison Your Future (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

We will continue our story this week “Are You Allowing Your Past to Poison Your Future”!

I had a client of mine who was a miserable person to be around. He just wouldn’t let go of all the hurts people caused him through out his life. It seemed like a game to him; he toyed with people emotionally. If they hurt him in the past, he would hold a grudge and bait people by acting nice to them. After they would feel a friendship was developing he would set them up with compliments, take them to lunch, etc. Then out of the blue, he would say very hurtful things and just dump the person, leaving that individual wondering “What just happened?” He was never really happy as he was stuck with the poison of his past and seemed to enjoy being mean spirited towards others. His past certainly poisoned his future with family and friends. Being bitter and angry never works for developing healthy or restoring relationships.

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Don’t let the poison of your past control your future of today

Say No to bad relationships, say No to unhealthy situations in your past, say No to those who have hurt you, say No to people that are holding you back! Say Yes to taking control of your future, say Yes to restoring relationships, say Yes to a happier life controlled by you! Oh, Dr. Mike, you make this sound so simple. You don’t know the struggles I have with my past. My friends, we all face struggles each and every one of us. I know we all have our own share of problems, but do our past issues consume us to the point we can’t move forward on with our lives? Do we hold on so tightly to our past failures that we don’t want the world to see that we have failed at something and the embarrassment will hurt our reputation? So if we allow the poison of our past to influence us for the rest of our lives, what will we accomplish by doing that? I think that’s a good question to ponder. Many people don’t know how to let go and move on. They drag a whole lot of troubles with them not knowing what to do to free themselves of their past.They will go to counselors and share their burdens they carry, and that’s as far as they get. They go home and beat themselves up. Why? They can’t let go of their past failures, they don’t listen to sound advice and dwell on what happened in the past.

If you’ve ever been in a bad relationship, you know what I am talking about. We all look back and wonder what happened and why did we allow ourselves to be with such an unhealthy person? Do we stay there and beat ourselves up? For the most part of course not, we move forward and look for a better and healthy relationship to be in.

In closing always remember, don’t allow your past or the poison you live with cloud your future. It’s all up to you to be in control of your future and to make the best of things and enjoy life. You can do this, you really can. No excuses my friends.

Are you holding on to your past hurts and can’t experience joy in your life? Do you still hold on to memories and your future seems hopeless? Do you want to be free of your past so you can have a wonderful future? If you answered yes to any of these questions, give Dr. Mike a call at 303.880.9878. He can help you with relationship problems.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Dealing With Difficult People (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Dealing with Difficult People (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week we will continue giving you useful information on dealing with difficult people in your life. Seldom do we know what to say or do with people who are angry and difficult to deal with. Dr. Mike will give you some great advice on how to take back control from difficult people in your life. Dealing with difficult gossips in your life. I know we all have been involved in gossip in one shape or form either on the receiving end or being the person who gossiped. Confronting a gossip in most cases causes the person to be angry and difficult towards you. This is a universal problem in all cultures around the globe. There are gossip magazines, gossip columns in the newspapers and on TV and the internet. Have you ever confronted a gossip? It can be very embarrassing for everyone involved. I listened to a friend of mine gossip about a person he knew that was late on his rent for his business and how he didn’t treat his co-workers very well. He went into great detail of how this man was a poor businessman and wasn’t very honest with his clients. I felt a twinge of pain for the man that was being gossiped about. He wasn’t there to defend himself or explain the reasons for his actions. I think gossip has parted families, in-laws, and close friends. If you’re the one being gossiped about, and I’m sure you have been, it’s a difficult thing to share with you. When we find out naturally, we want to defend ourselves against the person talking about us behind our backs. Confronting a gossip can be very difficult not only for you but the person you will be talking to. Most people who are being confronted about their gossiping will ignore the challenge from you and play the drama king or drama queen role. It’s embarrassing to be called on the carpet for the mistruths they are sharing with others. When someone gossips, they most likely don’t have all the facts and are going by their opinions or what they’ve heard from others. The one most common thread for gossips is that they have a way to much time on their hands. They listen to other gossips spread misinformation and take what they have heard and spread it as fact to anyone who will listen. I had a friend who didn’t have a lot of people he hung out with or knew personally. He was overheard talking with someone at lunch and sharing his opinion about someone at school. Someone overheard him, and he seemed like a gossip magnet for several people. He felt that he an audience of classmates and that he was important to them. He made up all kinds of stories about fellow students. Some half-truths and some just fabricated lies. When people started to sit with him at lunch and listen to the gossip he spread, I knew he was going to have to face some of the people he gossiped about. That day finally happened in the lunchroom a week later. As he was talking to several people at the table, one of my football teammates walked up to him and confronted him and made a scene. The people at his table left him alone with my teammate. I watched as he made it known that he was spreading lies, and it better stop. Gossips think that they are powerful and in the know when they spread gossip. They want to feel important and think that knowing personal details makes them someone who you can trust. Here are some of my tips on what gossip will do if not kept in check: • Gossip can ruin reputations at home, among friends, family and in the workplace. • Most likely the gossip will spread lies, and the gossips reputation is on the line. You don’t want to be known as a gossip. People will avoid you once this label is placed on you. • Is your gossip helpful, uplifting, encouraging, and true? Probably not! • Gossip has a way of getting back to the person you’re talking about, remember that! Next week we will continue with dealing with difficult people in our lives. Anger is a real problem many of us face with loved ones and close friends in our lives. Dr. Mike will share some of his tips to help you win the battle with difficult people. Are you afraid to confront difficult people in your life? Do you have family members who are difficult to get along with? Do you fear family gatherings because of past run-ins with siblings, parents? Would you like a plan that can help you face difficult people in your life? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then contact Dr. Mike for personal help and planning your next steps at 303.880.9878. Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Life Coaching and Counseling Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype. The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of the Denver-metro area. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!