Beware of the Rattlesnakes in your life! (3)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, I will wrap up this article on the rattlesnakes in our lives. Hopefully, this helps in dealing with those people who could be a problem for you.

I got back in my truck, drove back home, and felt like a ton of bricks was lifted off my shoulders. So, my question to you is this, who are the rattlesnakes in your life? Are they friends, co-workers, family members, maybe your parents or kids? Can you identify the rattlesnakes immediately or have a suspicion on who they are? If you absolutely know who they are, why are you hanging around them, what purpose do they serve in your relationship with them? Are you fearful of the consequences if you break off the relationship? At some point and time, you need to stop hanging around snakes. They’re not good for you; they mean you harm. A baby rattlesnake is just as dangerous as a big one, and they bite too. How many times do you have to be bitten by a snake to know that maybe, just maybe, you should move on?

I suggest that you hang around good people who care for you and about you. You want people that encourage you to grow in your life. I suggest that when you hear people who are up to no good, that you see the poison in their talk and actions, leave those kinds of friends immediately.

I can recall a friend of mine back in my hometown who seemed to have it all together. He was a family man, a churchgoer, a great job, and well respected in the business community. I always enjoyed our talks and his country boy humor. He was funny and made you laugh. But, behind his eyes, there was something he was hiding, I could sense it; something just wasn’t right. I couldn’t put my finger on it. I was overly cautious in what I said and shared. Then one day, he asked me to do him a favor. I listened to what he wanted and immediately said no way, I was shocked by what he told me. He was a poisonous snake, and I was done with our friendship. Sometimes you have to be quick and end a relationship that has potentially a bad outcome.

In closing, I want to give you a heads up about some people who are outright bad for you and need to be called rattlesnakes. Do you know who they are? If you do, do yourself a favor and end that relationship and move on. There are a lot of good people who would love to be a friend to you.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Boundaries in Dating,” By Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Do you feel like you’re living in a rattlesnake relationship and want help in deciding your next steps? Do you need help trying to figure out who you are married to and why they treat you the way they do? Do you want to know more about the motivations of the rattlesnake individual? Do you want help in managing and understanding your ups and downs with an unhealthy partner? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (14)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

Today, we will look at the last color in the colorcode, and that is the color yellow. I’ll start right off the bat and tell you that yellow is my primary color. When I took the colorcode test, and discovered that I was yellow after reading the natural strengths and limitations. I was looking at my profile and totally agreed with the results until I saw a few limitations that I disagreed with. As with every color in the colorcode, there will be some of the limitations that you will not agree with.

My results were pretty much spot on. I am speaking from a yellow profile perspective. I’ve had people ask me are yellows really outgoing and energetic. For the most part, yes, we are. We simply like to have fun and enjoy being around other people. We like to see others having fun and be a part of the activities we promote.

My kids will tell you that when we go to the store or to some event where there are people, OK, dad will start talking with people he doesn’t even know, and he makes a new friend in the process. My dad will learn about their families, jobs, events they have been to, even their sad stories. My kids will often make bets on how many people I will talk to. I think this is one of my greatest gifts is to make people feel welcome and appreciated.

When growing up, I was a really shy kid. I never mingled with people; I stayed to myself and did the things that made me happy. I had a rough childhood, and also being an army brat was hard, our family moved all over the US and Europe. I hardly saw my parents in the evening; they were attending base events or at parties off base. My parents were very sociable and enjoyed entertaining friends as well. I believe my dad had a yellow personality too. He was a well-liked officer by his men, family, and friends.

So, let’s look at the yellow personality and see if any of you can identify either as a yellow or know someone who is a yellow. Yellows are known as the fun lovers, we love having fun, we love to tease, tell jokes, and being around people. Fun to us yellows means enjoying someone or something just simply for the sake of enjoyment. People like being around us yellows, we bring life to all people, we encourage and love people just as they are.

Next week we will continue with discovering what yellows are all about and how much fun they can be!

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

 If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment and better employee hires for the company.

I’ve started a Zoom class on boundaries: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a white after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (13)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

We are wrapping up this week’s article on the colorcode white personality, and next week start on the yellows, the personality color of fun! They are one of the most exciting colors in the colorcode.

Whites hate confrontation; they are the peacemakers in the colorcode personality. My daughter will shut down when she is uncomfortable in certain situations. It seems like she is giving the silent treatment, but this is her way of coping with a potential confrontation. I do the same thing too. She will not openly share what she is feeling; she feels deep with her heart and mind, it’s just hard for her to share those feelings with people. I have to talk with her to get her to open up about how she feels.

One thing that drives the other colorcode personalities wild is that whites appear to be unmotivated, lazy, no drive. They seem to lack direction and commitment. Motivation requires goals, how to make these goals happen, next steps. For the whites, this is very difficult. Goals need your passion and a desire to make things happen, and whites fail miserably in this area. When a white finds something that they like to do, more often than not, whites will lose interest in it after several weeks.

In many ways, whites are like yellows, they are very accepting of all the colors, they try to find good in everyone they meet. People like being with whites because they are not judgemental and bring a healthy balance to a relationship. They want peace, and who doesn’t? They don’t seek out people to argue with and will bring peace and harmony to a relationship. Whites prefer to be alone and enjoy their alone time. Some folks think they are boring, and they can be at times, but they enjoy it when someone interacts with them and creates some excitement.

I had one client who was afraid to show his feelings or reveal how he felt. He was very protective of sharing his emotions. He avoided most conversations when people shared or spoke of how they felt about relationships. He would find an excuse to leave and go sit alone on a couch. That is a typical response of a white when avoiding uncomfortable situations. One of the reasons they do this is to prevent any confrontations on how they feel and don’t want to be asked any questions. Keep in mind that white personalities go through life as easy as they can; sometimes, you never know they are there. They are always in the background observing and listening.

What are the limitations of the white colorcode personality? That’s a great question, so what are their limitations? Well, let’s begin by saying they appear to be detached and uninvolved. Simply put, they seem uninterested and unwilling to set goals. They are not crazy about involvement because they fear that there will be confrontation or rejection. So what do they do? They hide in the background and watch.

Now the white strengths are amazing. They get along with every personality in the colorcode; we should learn from them as they contribute so much to all walks of life. They are gentle, kind, the VOR’s in our lives (Voice Of Reason). We need them to bring balance to our chaotic and hectic lives.

Hopefully, this has been an enlightening article for you, and you learn how to communicate with all the colors in the colorcode. Next week, we will learn about the yellows. They can be a blast, fun to hang around with, and be endearing.  

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on The Colorcode Thursdays. If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send him your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication. If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment, and better employee hires for the company.

Other Zoom classes coming up: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a white after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (8) By Dr. Michael Brooks

We will wrap up the color blue in this article. By now, you have learned a great deal about the blue personality and how important they are to have in your life. Why is it essential to have a blue personality in your life? I believe that they are one of the most enduring colors in the colorcode. They care and are empathetic, and listen well, are energetic, also creative, they love and enjoy closeness in relationships. All in all, they are just good people. Yes, they have their quirks, as we all do. Blues will enrich your life, and trust me, they will bring you a lot of peace and entertainment all at the same time. Blues rarely can tell a joke, and a lot of times, they don’t even get a joke. That will be the entertaining part of a relationship with a blue. I will tell my one blue friend a joke, and they will look at me, trying to figure if the joke was funny!

Here are some of the blues strengths: they are hard workers, always giving of themselves, highly disciplined, very good at deep conversation, very stable and dependable, they have a purpose, emotionally deep, very observant, they love working with children, is a loyal friend, considers spouse first when making decisions, contributes time to relationships, loyal to family, loves building on relationships!

If you’re a blue, these tips are for you: Make sure that those people who are in your family, spouse, work, co-workers, that they know your limits, sometimes blues will say yes, when they should say “NO”. Blues get way over their heads with a yes commitment. So let people know your boundaries and stick with them. This will prevent you from being taken advantage of and overwhelmed.

Don’t stress over your unmet expectations, manage your perfectionism, keep that in check. When dealing with unmet expectations, it’s easy to get overwhelmed, but stay focused and work on one detail at a time. Don’t be demanding and hard on yourself, that’s a waste of energy on your part.

Don’t keep dates, times of every interaction that you have with people. Learn to let go of past issues that you have had with people. There is no reason to keep those files in your head. Some people will upset you in life, but honestly, why give them any space in your mind. Cleanse your mind and get rid of bad memories, bad people, and move on with your life. You, as a blue, enrich so many of us, and we need you in our lives. Learn to let go and enjoy life.

Remember you can’t control every situation, some things are out of your hands. Realize that you can’t control other people, you can’t run other people’s lives. You can’t control what other people do. Can you control your boss at work? No, you can’t. Can you control your neighbor next door? NO, you can’t. Learn to relax and live with your color blue. You guys are amazing!

Next week, we will continue the series on the colorcode on the color white (Life’s peacekeepers).

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on The Colorcode this Thursday. If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send him your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication. If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment, and better employee hires for the company.

Other Zoom classes coming up: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a blue after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week we will look at the colorcode and continue with the color Blue. Blue have their complicated sides too, and we will go over that today. So we know that blues have a wonderful side to them, they’re fun to be around, they are committed to relationships, and passionate about being loyal and honest. We love having that kind of relationship and being in one. Then again, there is an unhealthy side of the Blue as well. So, let’s dig in and explore the other side of the blue personality….. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Here are the limitations of an unhealthy red: They are difficult to live and work with unless they get their own way. They will argue at the drop of a hat. They always consider themselves number #1. They can be insensitive and arrogant, creating distance and distrust. Intimacy is their least developed skill, fault finding seems essential for reds, tactless, and stubborn tends to frustrate others, generally seeks to serve self, highly verbal individual. Guilty of denial (who me). Always processing a new thought (loves to throw out questions, but is not searching for answers.) Demanding and critical of others. Seeks power to control others, dislikes being told what to do. Poor listener, Gives priority to work over personal relationships, demanding and arrogant, primarily concerned with self-gratification, promotes turmoil and conflict when a personal goal is to be gained. How many people do you know that have most of these unhealthy red traits?

Healthy Reds also have incredible strengths as well. They are the lifeblood of humanity, and they can be movers and shakers of society, an asset to any organization, they excel with logical thinking, natural leader, committed to a productive lifestyle, direct and honest with opinions, loyal to the relationship, promotes group activities, highly task-oriented and efficient, rational thinkers and assertive communicators, natural goal-setter and completes tasks, highly protective of companion. They model leadership skills that others want to emulate, value productivity, and are highly successful people. These are just a few of the good healthy Red traits. I have clients who are married to a healthy red, and they have a great marriage. Reds can be so positive and encouraging to their partners.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel frustrated with living or working with someone who is an unhealthy Red? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship? Is your spouse, friend, co-worker demanding and critical of you, and you want it to stop? Do you want help in managing your anger towards someone who is an unhealthy Red? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Dr. Mike is having Zoom classes on The Colorcode. If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send him your email address to get a link for the Zoom class.
Other Zoom classes coming up: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mbrooks3353@gmail.com or call 303.880.9878.

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (2)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

Have you ever wondered why someone, maybe a family member, a friend, even a co-worker, treats you so badly?  I certainly have, their behavior puzzles me and leaves me wondering why are some of these people so angry, defensive, mad, while other people we know are joking around when something just serious just happened. Then you have those who are so sensitive and serious, while others will not argue or fight and will avoid conflicts with you at all costs.

Hopefully, this article will make you want to do something about the people who make you feel miserable, worthless, and not valued. How would you like to know the hidden secrets in dealing with these people and having a good relationship with them? It can happen; you just have to learn what people’s motives are, what drives them to do the things they do. In my Counseling and coaching practice, I see many people struggling with relationships and, more often than not, are frustrated, tired, and just want to understand why people act the way they do.I have a cousin of mine that I’ve known for several years. He’s had his quirks that I didn’t understand these past several years, and now I see them as his issues and not mine.

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