Beware of the Rattlesnakes in your life! (1)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

I was at a marriage conference in Colorado Springs last weekend when I noticed a sign by the hotel entrance that said, “Beware of Rattlesnakes.” I looked around the area, and I could see where rattlesnakes could be a potential problem. Rattlesnakes had the perfect habitat; there was sandy soil, lots of places where the snakes could hide, and lots of sun. I have had a few close encounters with rattlesnakes, and honestly, they scared the daylights out of me! Out of nowhere, while walking a hiking trail, I heard the rattle of the rattlesnake that gave me the warning to stay clear, which I did.

Some people are like rattlesnakes too. A rattlesnake from a distance can cause alarm, but you’ll be on your guard. Whereas a rattlesnake hidden in the weeds or around the corner when you’re walking, can strike at you without any warning. Those are the snakes that we must be aware of in our lives, the hidden ones. The ones that catch us off guard, the ones that strike without warning. These are the people I want to warn you about.

Some people can fool you when you least expect it. I can remember hearing guys at work slam our boss (Frank), granted he was hard to get along with at times. I would watch these guys set him up and tease him about the clothes he’d wear. They’d make fun of his shoes, shirts, pants, whatever they could embarrass him about. They’d tease him about not having a car, because he walked to work. I never thought it was funny, only hurtful. Frank wasn’t overly complex; he was simple in many ways. I liked that about him, as I felt he was extremely easy to get along with. Why these other guys felt that he was a target of their attacks was beyond me. I was a teenager when working for this company, it was a summer job. Most kids in high school would simply avoid getting entangled with adults being mean to someone at work. I was pretty shy when I was in High School.

Frank would seek me out when we had a lunch break. I liked to listen to him talk about his wife and kids, he was proud of his family. He didn’t really care what the others would say about him, I just knew that they were the rattlesnakes in his life, and they liked spreading their poison. That left a lasting impression about the people I needed to avoid in life. If I hear someone gossiping, I will confront them. Gossip has destroyed friendships, businesses, families. I call this one of the main venoms we all deal with, each and every day.

Next week, we will continue with the rattlesnakes in your life and relationships. Learn how to deal with these volatile people you encounter in your families, friendships, and work.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursdays. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

Do you feel like you’re living in a rattlesnake relationship and want help in deciding your next steps? Do you need help trying to figure out who you are married to and why they treat you the way they do? Do you want to know more about the motivations of the rattlesnake individual? Do you want help in managing and understanding your ups and downs with an unhealthy partner? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (11)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, we will continue on the personality color of white. Have you noticed anyone in your family or at work that lives for peace and harmony? Let’s see.

I had a client of mine who’s wife had asked him to remove his books and files he placed on their pool table. They had been there for several months. She asked him over and over again to remove the mess off the pool table. One Saturday morning, she went into their home office and asked him one more time, “please remove your stuff off the pool table.”  He said he would get to it but was busy at the moment. A minute later, she walked into his office with a stack of books, magazines, file folders, raised them over her head, and slammed them on his office floor, and walked out of his office. He was stunned, shocked as his wife was a quiet, soft-spoken white. He sat there in disbelief and stared at the mess on the floor. Five minutes later, she walked back into his office and apologized for her behavior. That’s another thing whites will do, apologize for their actions, knowing it was wrong.

As my secondary color is white, I can tell you that whites, for the most part, hate being in leadership positions. I know I don’t like being out in front and leading things. I have overcome that fear and will do it from time to time. The hang-up with whites is we fear when in any leadership position, we’ll make the wrong decisions, so we avoid having any responsibilities. For the most part, whites don’t say much, but they’re always observing those around them. Whites listen well and remember things being said. If you talk negatively about someone they know and like, they will remember what you said and not forget; whites don’t like someone talking about others. They will avoid you because you have given them a reason not to trust you.

Whites don’t take life seriously; they meander through life as casual lost souls. Getting a white to do something can be draining, it can be hard sometimes. My one friend is never in a hurry; he will frustrate others who may be in a hurry. Whites can be very forgetful too. They may forget to bring lunch to work; they may fail to pick-up a friend for a movie or errands. A big one is that they fail to return phone calls.

Next week, we will continue on the whites in the colorcode, hopefully, you’re learning something about the peacemakers in your life!

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on The Colorcode Thursdays. If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send him your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication. If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment, and better employee hires for the company.

Other Zoom classes coming up: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a white after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Winning Combination For a Great marriage (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks Have you ever watched a couple that had a wonderful marriage, then thought about yours? They hold hands when walking; they laugh and smile when they’re together. Their marriage seems so inspiring, and you think, I’d like a marriage like that too! I have seen these marriages and observed what their secret is. I watched many of these couples over the years while growing up. My dad was in the military, and I saw my parents having a so, so marriage…. To Continue reading this article go to the following link below: idontwantthisdivorce.com/2020/04/winning…y-dr-michael-brooks/

Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks This week, I want to talk about physical touch, and how that can be an important love language if your spouse loves to touch. Can a marriage be built-up by knowing the five love languages? Absolutely. If you learn about the five love languages and how they can apply to your spouse and actually use them, you will see your marriage grow stronger and your communication improves.I ask this question at my seminars and when seeing clients at my office, “Who loves holding hands?” And I’ll ask my readers, do you? I know physical touch is important to so many of you. I know many couples who connect while driving to do errands or road trips and they will hold hands. Physical touch comes in many forms, a kiss, a pat on the back, hand-holding, giving a massage, arm in arm, leaning on each other, hugs, and physical intimacy. If you think about it, young children love being hugged by their mothers, that’s the way moms and babies connect. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week, I want to go over acts of service, how important are acts of service for building up your spouse. Our marriages are built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem. Doing things for our spouse without asking is a great way to show your spouse how much you love them. Our next love language is Acts of Service, that means doing something for your spouse, or they do something for you, without being asked. I have a friend who will make his wife coffee every morning without ever being asked. He doesn’t drink coffee but loves doing this for his wife. She thinks it’s great and feels closer to her husband because of this kind act… To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Show me That You Love Me! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks This week, I want to go over spending quality time together and how important that is to your spouse. Marriages are also built on doing things together which helps create a positive and healthy marriage. How important do you think spending quality time together is? Do you like hanging out with your spouse on the weekends, do you enjoy walks and talking together? Quality time is the time you spend together, just the two of you. I like to suggest this time is where you’re not watching TV or reading a book. It’s time where you can talk and listen to each other…. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Show me That You Love Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks This week, I want to go over words of affirmation and how important your words can be for building up your spouse. Our marriages should be built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem and helping them to see the positive that they bring into a marriage.  Let’s look at the first love language listed. Words of Affirmation, those words would be words that help build someone up. Kind words, appreciative words. Growing up, as a kid my number one love language was words of Affirmation. I would seek approval from my mom by the things I did around the house. I would clean my room thoroughly as a 13-year-old kid. I’d dust, vacuum, have everything in its place, bed made. I’d ask my mom to come into my room to look at how clean my room was. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Show Me That You Love Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks