Facing Your Giants (4)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants; look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

The giant of self-doubting is huge for many of us; how many of you have had this problem? I sure have, and on many levels. Many doubt that they are good enough for their spouses, their jobs, and their families. I often felt self-doubt in my sports career, I competed with many great athletes and was very hard on myself when playing against these guys. I had great expectations for myself in the weight room but often questioned my abilities on the field. I had one coach who believed in my on-the-field athletic abilities and would often recognize and compliment me in front of the team after we went into the locker room after a game. It was then that I realized the pressure that I was putting on myself was not necessary. The same went for other areas in my life relating to self-doubt. It’s hard to believe that a football coach helped me see through my self-doubt and trust in my athletic abilities and how that would translate in real life.

Often self-doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or distrust. Example: I had self-doubts about my athletic ability or doubting people’s words (many have said things that they do and never followed up with making things happen). It could be a point in which one is uncertain or skeptical about trusting people as well. This is a big giant for many people.

Loneliness is often described as sadness because one has no friends or company to be with. I often wonder how many people are lonely because it’s self-inflicted. They make no point in making friends and are perfectly ok with no friends whatsoever. How sad that must be; you don’t share holidays, birthdays, or special occasions. Some people avoid being around others; honestly, I don’t fault these people. It’s the way they want to live their lives. I had a client years ago who wanted to divorce her spouse. She didn’t want to be married any longer and decided to end the marriage of 25 years. She filed for divorce against the wishes of her husband. She packed up her belongings and moved out of state. This shocked the entire family; she wanted nothing to do with them. To this day, her kids have honored her wishes and know nothing about their mother. She refuses to contact any of her children.

I look at someone like this and their actions that have caused a great deal of heartache. So the question I often get is, how do you deal with loneliness if it is hard to make friends? This is where I suggest you learn how to reach out to others and get involved with their lives. Yes, it may be uncomfortable, but it is necessary to end the loneliness that you’re experiencing. Make a point to join social clubs, a gym, a book club, find a group at church, or join a professional association from work. There are ways to get involved. To end loneliness, you need to take the first step in making things happen. I know that this is a giant for many of you. If you’re lonely and need help in overcoming this, I can help you with that. Call me. Next week we will continue the article facing your giants and see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, and confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of facing your giants head-on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to Zoom with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call at 303.880.9878! You’ll be glad you did!

Facing Your Giants (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue my article on Facing Your Giants. First, let’s look at what causes some of the giants we face. So my question for you today is: what are the Giants you’re facing and need help confronting today? You may have one or several Giants that control you; over the next several weeks, we’ll address several of them you may be facing. First, I will share with you one of my biggest Giants: Abandonment. I was raised in a military family, and we moved worldwide. We never stayed in one place very long, and it was rare that you would make any real friends because you’d soon move to another base. My parents were always at officers’ parties in the evening, and my sister and I were dropped off at the babysitters on the base. As soon as my sister and I found out that another night was going to be spent at the babysitter’s, I would beg not to go. I was only six years old and remembered feeling abandoned by my mom and dad. That was a painful childhood memory and stayed with me until I finally dealt with the problem. So, I’ll sit back and reminisce and ask myself, what are the Giants I have stored in the back of my mind and want to get rid of? I knew I needed help and wanted to have a clear conscience. So what are your giants, and what are your next steps to deal with them?

I will cover the ones I know personally and have helped my clients deal with in a one-on-one counseling/coaching session. Let’s talk if you relate to any of these and want to come to some resolution in eliminating them. I have some great idea’s on how to resolve them. Don’t let your Giants hold you back from becoming all you can be or do. Let’s look at these Giants and how to deal with them.

Fear, what are you fearful of? Fear can hold you back in many ways. It can prevent you from moving forward in your family, life, and work. Here is a definition of fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Fear has many names and strikes many of us at all levels. The fear of death is very real for most people, especially people over the age of 60 years old. When I talk to people about death, I ask them what is their biggest fear, believe it or not, dying alone! I am a pretty positive person, and I ask them about family and friends and do they have close people in their lives. Then I ask them about their health, are they exercising and eating right? I give them a talk about how they can improve their health by living a healthy lifestyle. Fear of death can be looked at in a logical way, and solutions can be found if only you focus on finding answers. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants and see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, and confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head-on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to Zoom with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call at 303.880.9878! You’ll be glad you did!

Facing Your Giants (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

As I was walking out of the grocery store to put my grocery cart away, I turned and suddenly stood face to-face with the old town gossip just two feet away. I and many others have been talked about by this woman in our small community. My mind raced as I looked at her and as she stared at me. I froze, I wanted to tell her off, yet my mind prevented me from exposing the town gossip. I would have enjoyed doing this, but I couldn’t bring myself to be like this woman. Why? I had every reason to let loose on her, right? I mean, she had attacked me and lied and gossiped.

I know others have been hurt by her gossip; why not just expose her, and humiliate her at the only grocery store in town? The giant that I faced in this situation was (revenge) what would have happened if I had done such a thing? I would have stooped to her level and probably paid the price for it. I decided to keep the peace and not say a thing. When we face our giants, we must look at them logically and proceed. In this next series of articles, we will look at some of the giants we all face and how to deal with them.

What are the Giants you currently face, and which ones hold you back from enjoying everyday life? We all have those giants staring us in the face every day, and we most likely avoid dealing with them and wish they’d just go away. Many we’ve kept hidden for years only to find that they have robbed us of enjoying life and being happy.

Many of these Giants have been in our heads as far back as we can remember, for many of us, since we were children and some as adults. Think about this for a minute, what are these Giants that you are holding on to and want to let go of today? What are the names of these Giants that grip you and cause you to hide in your emotional closet? There are many Giants we have hidden and tucked away in our minds until we are forced to deal with them. Either we recoil and run away from them or face them and cower in silence and look the other way. Next week we will continue the article facing your giants and see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, and confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head-on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to Zoom with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Facing Your Giants (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week we will continue facing your giant’s article, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help in confronting today? You may have one or several Giants that control you. Do you need help in dealing with a health crisis? I think Illness is another big giant, many face or will face down the road. I have seen many patients of mine who have had serious health issues and are not sure how to deal with their upcoming crisis. Diseases are scary; surgeries are uncomfortable and can cause uncertainties. Health situations are either in your control or not. What do you mean by that, Dr. Mike? Case in point, both my parents smoked two and a half packs of cigarettes a day and were heavy drinkers. Both had lung cancer from 50 plus years of smoking; I suspect that they could have lived much longer lives had they not smoked. Why do I say this? Both my mom and dad passed away at 69 years of age. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Facing Your Giants (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks