Did you know that most attorneys are not trained to act as Counselors or Divorce Coaches and cannot provide the proper emotional support that their clients need? As a result, the attorney and client spend hours discussing the emotional aspects of divorce and the client ends up paying a large bill and receives little more than a shoulder to cry on. Attorneys want to help you with the legal aspects of your divorce, not to be your Divorce coach or counselor. That’s not their job!

Many of my clients come to me with little or no energy left to accomplish what they want out of life (life’s battles). They say that there always seems to be a mountain to climb (major problem), and for others, a wall (major disaster) to run into. Does this sound familiar?

Divorce Coaching offers structure and holds clients responsible for assuming a proactive role. A Coach may recommend material for clients to read, work on, or refer to for future use. Clients can benefit by working with a Coach in setting realistic expectations for the process and receiving education about the options available for divorce. Being informed and prepared helps clients make important decisions with confidence. Guiding clients in clarifying their thoughts, needs, and concerns, in order to communicate more effectively, is another important function of the Coach. Clear, purposeful, and rational communication helps to ease tension and foster understanding between spouses, as well as parents and children.

Much like any crisis or trauma, the early emotions of a pending divorce include shock, disbelief, denial, anger, and the pain associated with the loss. Once the early emotions have been experienced, there is a need for people going through a divorce to make sure they continue to take the necessary steps in moving toward recovery. As with any significant loss that involves a meaningful relationship, divorce can lead someone to a place of anger, bitterness, and lonely despair. Dr. Mike will walk you through the critical role of forgiveness in divorce recovery. Especially when it comes to wrestling with issues, like trying to prove who’s right or wanting to get even.

In addition, many divorcing couples wind up in the traditional litigation route because they are reacting to fear, anger, and a desire for getting even and are not thinking about what will happen once the divorce battle has ended.

After the grief process has run its course, divorced men and women must begin to consider their next steps in getting back to a healthy level of functioning. While this may not necessarily mean starting a new romance there is a need to take stock and evaluate relationships with family members and friends.

Part of building a new life is the acceptance of having been divorced. There are key issues in starting over, these include the need to avoid a victim mindset, having a balanced life and building self-esteem, and considering the future in terms of family, jobs, and finances.

After the grief process has run its course, divorced men and women must begin to consider their next steps in getting back to a healthy level of functioning. While this may not necessarily mean starting a new romance there is a need to take stock and evaluate relationships with family members and friends.

Did you know that…
Americans divorce more than any country in the history of the world.
The divorce rate has increased in the U.S. every decade since 1890.

Dynamics of Divorce Coaching:
Delayed and later-life marriages are the norm for society today.
Divorce is often a lengthy process that can last for years.
The person who often seeks divorce coaching is the one who did not initiate the divorce proceedings.
Divorce coaches help repair and rebuild a life.
How the biological parents dealt with divorce literally determined the future of their sons and daughters.

What Divorce Coaching will do for you:
Help you manage the early emotions.
Move you towards acceptance.
Process the grief and loss.
Understand the grief cycle.
Do’s and don’t’s in your divorce.
Forgiveness and letting go.
Building a new life.
The Five Keys to starting over.
Barriers to new relationships.
Finding new relationships.
Now what? Living in a blended family.

Are you in the process of Divorce? Do you have a relationship that isn’t working, or that you want to improve and work on? Is your marriage in trouble, and is there still hope of reconciliation? Or do you need to end an unhealthy relationship? If you answered yes to any of these, I can help you as a Divorce Coach. You can call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you have any questions.

Unexplained Behaviors Explained? (14)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

Today, we will look at the last color in the colorcode, and that is the color yellow. I’ll start right off the bat and tell you that yellow is my primary color. When I took the colorcode test, and discovered that I was yellow after reading the natural strengths and limitations. I was looking at my profile and totally agreed with the results until I saw a few limitations that I disagreed with. As with every color in the colorcode, there will be some of the limitations that you will not agree with.

My results were pretty much spot on. I am speaking from a yellow profile perspective. I’ve had people ask me are yellows really outgoing and energetic. For the most part, yes, we are. We simply like to have fun and enjoy being around other people. We like to see others having fun and be a part of the activities we promote.

My kids will tell you that when we go to the store or to some event where there are people, OK, dad will start talking with people he doesn’t even know, and he makes a new friend in the process. My dad will learn about their families, jobs, events they have been to, even their sad stories. My kids will often make bets on how many people I will talk to. I think this is one of my greatest gifts is to make people feel welcome and appreciated.

When growing up, I was a really shy kid. I never mingled with people; I stayed to myself and did the things that made me happy. I had a rough childhood, and also being an army brat was hard, our family moved all over the US and Europe. I hardly saw my parents in the evening; they were attending base events or at parties off base. My parents were very sociable and enjoyed entertaining friends as well. I believe my dad had a yellow personality too. He was a well-liked officer by his men, family, and friends.

So, let’s look at the yellow personality and see if any of you can identify either as a yellow or know someone who is a yellow. Yellows are known as the fun lovers, we love having fun, we love to tease, tell jokes, and being around people. Fun to us yellows means enjoying someone or something just simply for the sake of enjoyment. People like being around us yellows, we bring life to all people, we encourage and love people just as they are.

Next week we will continue with discovering what yellows are all about and how much fun they can be!

I have used the colorcode when dealing with my clients and their needs. If you want a better marriage, the colorcode will open doors to better communication.

Dr. Mike has Zoom classes on “Where to Draw the Line,” setting your boundaries by Anne Katherine, on Thursday’s. “If you’re interested in attending this class, it’s on Thursday from 5:00 to 6:00 PM. You’ll need to send Mike your email address to get a link for the Zoom class. Send your email address to mike@applicablecoaching.com. You can sit in and listen or be a participant. These classes are free.

Zoom classes in session: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

 If you are having issues at work with a co-worker or boss/management, the colorcode will open doors of understanding. If you hire or lay people off, the colorcode will give you the necessary tools for a better work environment and better employee hires for the company.

I’ve started a Zoom class on boundaries: How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family, and friends. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mike@applicablecoaching.com or call 303.880.9878.

The Colorcode designed by Taylor Hartman is Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into what makes you and those around you tick. Each of the four colors: Red, Blue, Yellow, and White, stands for a collection of traits, strengths, and limitations. You can have one dominant color with traces of the three other colors in your colorcode personality. If you would like to take the free colorcode test and see what your primary color is, you can do so by going to colorcode.com click on the free test, once you take it, read what color your primary color is. The book is “The People Code” by Taylor Hartman, a great read and really gets into how the colors interact with each other. I highly recommend that you get this book.

Dr. Mike is a certified colorcode trainer and can help with people’s personality issues at home or in the office. Give him a call, and he can go into greater detail on how to use the colorcode in your home or the workplace. Call him at 303.880.9878

Do you feel a bit confused living or working with someone who is a white after reading today’s article and want to learn more about what motivates them? Do you need help in building up the intimacy in your relationship through the colorcode? Do you want to know more about the colorcode and how to incorporate it in your marriage or business? Do you want help in managing and understanding your color in colorcode? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Zoom (if you want to have a Zoom meeting with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mike@applicablecoaching.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

When Your Anger Controls You! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks Here are a few of my helpful tips when dealing with your anger or with someone that you know. We all face being angry at times, and these tips will help guide you through the minefields of your personal anger or those you know who have anger issues. Taste it before you say it; if you think your words are going to be insulting, mean, nasty, and you’ll be sorry for saying something you ought not, then don’t say it. Stop right there and say nothing, take some time to cool down. Walk away and give yourself some time to figure out what happened and why it did. Give others the benefit of the doubt, don’t assume someone has it out for you. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

When Your Anger Controls You! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Show me That You Love Me! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week, I want to go over the love language of receiving gifts and how gifts can be used for building up your spouse, if gifts is his/her love language? For some spouses, gifts are very important no matter what the gift is, or the cost. My mom loved receiving gifts from my dad; He was good about little gift surprises that my mom loved. I can remember when he’d bring home flowers, cards, jewlery. He was away a lot because of the military and these small tokens of his love went a long way to make my mom very happy! To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Show me That You Love Me! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks So, what keeps us from facing the hurts that we have inside us and don’t want to face? There are many reasons, and here are a few. I think this list includes pride, embarrassment, resentment, anger, shyness, nervousness, bitterness, and many more. I’m sure you could add several more names to this list that is holding you back from facing issues and has caused you to run away like an Olympic long-distance runner. Do you think it’s time to stop running away from your problems and deal with them? If running away from people and situations is keeping you awake at night, then take care of it? Some people are good at hiding their feelings from friends and family, but they can’t hide it from themselves, and that’s what really counts. You may be good at concealing deep down hurts, but the one person that it affects is you! You have to live with your feelings and your past. For some of you, that can be scary. There is hope for you, and you don’t have to live with “running away” from your problems any longer. There is hope for you, and for many of you it’s a lifeline of hope and grace. If you have hurt someone or acted out of anger and can’t face that individual, the time is now to face that person and do the right thing. If an apology is needed, do it, if you need to make things right, make it happen. Having peace of mind is well worth the effort. Believe it or not, you will feel so much better. Trying to avoid the people you hurt is not worth the embarrassment or resentment you are causing others. Life is to short to keep hiding and avoiding family members, friends and co-workers. Set yourself free from worrying about running into the people you’ve wounded. I guarantee you will run into them at one time or another. I will be honest with you, and there will be reasons why some people will not accept your sincere efforts in making things right. Some folks are just plain bitter, nothing you could do would make things better. Still try and ask for forgiveness in a letter or phone call. I would try it once, and if they reach out to you and want to talk, be gracious and meet with them. Don’t make excuses for your behavior; accept your responsibility in what you did, own up to it. You will feel so much better when you do. Next week, I will give you some tips that will help you face and defeat problems that have you running away from them. Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk. Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (3) By Dr Michael Brooks Today’s article addresses some of the issues and why marriages break down, if you want to save your failing marriage, start learning the warning signs. Start paying attention to your spouse, boy this one is one of those irritating mostly for women, it seems like guys just don’t get it. A husband comes home from work, ignores the kids, and walks over to the TV and turns it on and starts watching TV. He pays no attention to his wife or kids. So, her thoughts are, honey, why not just say hi and ask how my day was! Even a simple acknowledgement of his wife would help the evening go better. When spouses feel neglected there is a potential problem in the making, and that is loneliness. Many spouses will stray if they continue to feel this way, they feel alone and left out…. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:http://idontwantthisdivorce.com/2019/11/the-fastest-way-to-end-your-marriage-3-by-dr-michael-brooks/

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (1) By Dr Michael Brooks I was watching a husband and wife argue over their crying son in a crowded restaurant. He wanted her to take him out and deal with the problem while he watched his football team on the TV. They went back and forth when she finally said “fine; we’ll talk about this when we get home!” He seemed so out of touch with the anger his wife was showing towards him. She walked out and never came back in, he seemed to be more interested in his football game than his family. I’d say this is more common with younger families today then it was a generation ago. Disconnect with your spouse, and you’ll surely find marital unhappiness. I know many of you are busy with your jobs, hobbies, electronics, but your family should take a priority and be number one and not at the bottom of your list. Marriage is hard work, we all know that. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (1) By Dr Michael Brooks