Did you know that most attorneys are not trained to act as Counselors or Divorce Coaches and cannot provide the proper emotional support that their clients need? As a result, the attorney and client spend hours discussing the emotional aspects of divorce and the client ends up paying a large bill and receives little more than a shoulder to cry on. Attorneys want to help you with the legal aspects of your divorce, not to be your Divorce coach or counselor. That’s not their job!

Many of my clients come to me with little or no energy left to accomplish what they want out of life (life’s battles). They say that there always seems to be a mountain to climb (major problem), and for others, a wall (major disaster) to run into. Does this sound familiar?

Divorce Coaching offers structure and holds clients responsible for assuming a proactive role. A Coach may recommend material for clients to read, work on, or refer to for future use. Clients can benefit by working with a Coach in setting realistic expectations for the process and receiving education about the options available for divorce. Being informed and prepared helps clients make important decisions with confidence. Guiding clients in clarifying their thoughts, needs, and concerns, in order to communicate more effectively, is another important function of the Coach. Clear, purposeful, and rational communication helps to ease tension and foster understanding between spouses, as well as parents and children.

Much like any crisis or trauma, the early emotions of a pending divorce include shock, disbelief, denial, anger, and the pain associated with the loss. Once the early emotions have been experienced, there is a need for people going through a divorce to make sure they continue to take the necessary steps in moving toward recovery. As with any significant loss that involves a meaningful relationship, divorce can lead someone to a place of anger, bitterness, and lonely despair. Dr. Mike will walk you through the critical role of forgiveness in divorce recovery. Especially when it comes to wrestling with issues, like trying to prove who’s right or wanting to get even.

In addition, many divorcing couples wind up in the traditional litigation route because they are reacting to fear, anger, and a desire for getting even and are not thinking about what will happen once the divorce battle has ended.

After the grief process has run its course, divorced men and women must begin to consider their next steps in getting back to a healthy level of functioning. While this may not necessarily mean starting a new romance there is a need to take stock and evaluate relationships with family members and friends.

Part of building a new life is the acceptance of having been divorced. There are key issues in starting over, these include the need to avoid a victim mindset, having a balanced life and building self-esteem, and considering the future in terms of family, jobs, and finances.

After the grief process has run its course, divorced men and women must begin to consider their next steps in getting back to a healthy level of functioning. While this may not necessarily mean starting a new romance there is a need to take stock and evaluate relationships with family members and friends.

Did you know that…
Americans divorce more than any country in the history of the world.
The divorce rate has increased in the U.S. every decade since 1890.

Dynamics of Divorce Coaching:
Delayed and later-life marriages are the norm for society today.
Divorce is often a lengthy process that can last for years.
The person who often seeks divorce coaching is the one who did not initiate the divorce proceedings.
Divorce coaches help repair and rebuild a life.
How the biological parents dealt with divorce literally determined the future of their sons and daughters.

What Divorce Coaching will do for you:
Help you manage the early emotions.
Move you towards acceptance.
Process the grief and loss.
Understand the grief cycle.
Do’s and don’t’s in your divorce.
Forgiveness and letting go.
Building a new life.
The Five Keys to starting over.
Barriers to new relationships.
Finding new relationships.
Now what? Living in a blended family.

Are you in the process of Divorce? Do you have a relationship that isn’t working, or that you want to improve and work on? Is your marriage in trouble, and is there still hope of reconciliation? Or do you need to end an unhealthy relationship? If you answered yes to any of these, I can help you as a Divorce Coach. You can call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you have any questions.

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (4) By Dr Michael Brooks Putting others and friends ahead of your spouse is a deal-breaker. Believe it not, this is a big problem today. Many marriage partners have brothers and sisters who rate more than their spouse does. I have seen it with many of my clients, and I have done it as well, without knowing it. In my younger years, I grew up with really close friends and neglected those I’ve dated. I thought she get over it, and she didn’t. We didn’t last very long in that relationship…. To read the rest of this article go to the following link below:

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (4) By Dr Michael Brooks

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (2) By Dr Michael Brooks In today’s article, I believe that “The lack of communication in marriages today is a major reason for divorces.” Dr Mike Brooks. I have some suggestions for those of you who want to have a great marriage, (Work on it daily!) Please read and learn from these articles and how they can prevent divorce. Just being a spectator in your marriage will not work! Let’s look at the lack of communication and how that can destroy your marriage and any relationship for that matter! More often than not spouses seem to think that their better half can read their minds and know what to say and do. I have heard this over and over in my office several times. Here is a classic example. Wife says to the husband, “Honey did you put gas in my car?” Why, no I didn’t, why do you ask? “You always do and I was just reminding you that I need gas in my car. ”To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (2) By Dr Michael Brooks

Seasons of Darkness (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week, we will conclude this weeks series article on “Seasons of Darkness.” I hope this series has helped those of you are dealing with everyday struggles of darkness in your lives. If you need to talk, please give me a call and let’s see what we can do to help you through your difficult times. I’m here to help! I had a friend who went through an unwanted divorce, he fought it, begged for a second chance and said he would make all the necessary changes to save his marriage. He promised he’d be a new man. Well, that didn’t go well for him. She filed and got her divorce. He went into a season of darkness for several months. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Seasons of Darkness (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week we will continue facing your giants, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help in confronting? You may have one or several Giants that control you. Divorce/separation is a giant many will face at some time during their lifetime; whether you are in this process or a parent of an adult child who is going through a divorce or separation, this can be a big as a giant that you or your loved one will ever face. When someone doesn’t want a divorce, the pain that this causes will feel like death for those getting divorce papers served on them. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks This week I will continue my article on, “Facing Your Giants”. Let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face in your everyday life. So my question for you today is, what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control the way you think and act. The giant of self-doubting is huge for many of us, how many of you have had this problem? I sure have and on many levels. Many doubt that they are good enough for their spouses, their jobs, and families. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce? (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks We are continuing our article on “Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce?” Learn how to avoid the pitfalls of divorce and possibly save your marriage. There are several tips that can help you along the way of deciding what your next steps should be. “What do we do now,” is pretty important… Step three, ok, your relationship is still up in the air after you’ve talked, your not sure where your marriage is headed. You have no answers and yet neither of you wants to commit to getting a divorce, so, what do you do now? I think that this step in figuring “What do we do now,” is pretty important. I suggest starting building each other up, talk about your spouse’s positive attributes and what they mean to you. To continue reading this article go to the following link below:

Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce? (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks