You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks

You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks So, what keeps us from facing the hurts that we have inside us and don’t want to face? There are many reasons, and here are a few. I think this list includes pride, embarrassment, resentment, anger, shyness, nervousness, bitterness, and many more. I’m sure you could add several more names to this list that is holding you back from facing issues and has caused you to run away like an Olympic long-distance runner. Do you think it’s time to stop running away from your problems and deal with them? If running away from people and situations is keeping you awake at night, then take care of it? Some people are good at hiding their feelings from friends and family, but they can’t hide it from themselves, and that’s what really counts. You may be good at concealing deep down hurts, but the one person that it affects is you! You have to live with your feelings and your past. For some of you, that can be scary. There is hope for you, and you don’t have to live with “running away” from your problems any longer. There is hope for you, and for many of you it’s a lifeline of hope and grace. If you have hurt someone or acted out of anger and can’t face that individual, the time is now to face that person and do the right thing. If an apology is needed, do it, if you need to make things right, make it happen. Having peace of mind is well worth the effort. Believe it or not, you will feel so much better. Trying to avoid the people you hurt is not worth the embarrassment or resentment you are causing others. Life is to short to keep hiding and avoiding family members, friends and co-workers. Set yourself free from worrying about running into the people you’ve wounded. I guarantee you will run into them at one time or another. I will be honest with you, and there will be reasons why some people will not accept your sincere efforts in making things right. Some folks are just plain bitter, nothing you could do would make things better. Still try and ask for forgiveness in a letter or phone call. I would try it once, and if they reach out to you and want to talk, be gracious and meet with them. Don’t make excuses for your behavior; accept your responsibility in what you did, own up to it. You will feel so much better when you do. Next week, I will give you some tips that will help you face and defeat problems that have you running away from them. Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk. Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Posted on January 8, 2020 by Dr. Mike Brooks

Categories: Marriage Relationships, Professional Accountability Coaching, Relationships

Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage So Soon (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage So Soon (2)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week I want to give you some tips that will help open the doors on repairing your relationship. The first step is realizing that you need to work on the marriage and admitting that you need help. There is nothing wrong to ask for someone to guide you through the turbulent waters of relationship issues. The golden rule I like to use when doing pre-marital counseling and working on your marriage, is to make sure that you:

  • Communicate your needs, wants and desires well
  • Listen with open ears and eyes
  • Apologize often and ask for forgiveness
  • Make sure that you appreciate your spouse and tell them so
  • Be openly affectionate to your spouse, hold hands, walk arm in arm
  • Give your spouse the attention they need from you
Cute Young Couple Arguing

These are simple rules to live by and will help both of you enjoy a wonderful relationship that will last a lifetime. You both need to be committed and understand that an open and honest relationship is built on a solid foundation of love, trust, loyalty, integrity, commitment, and “I will not quit” spirit. All marriages can be hard at times, and they will have great rewards for those who are willing to roll up their sleeves and commit to making the marriage work. So many couples throw in the towel so early in the game and walk away from a reparable relationship. Some think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, remember this, if you water your own lawn it would be greener on your own side of the fence (meaning YOUR marriage).

What is the dark side of giving up on your marriage so soon? 

  • If you have children, they will see you didn’t stick it out or give it your all
  • There is always a chance that the marriage will survive and become stronger
  • Resentment, bitterness, and anger will become a way of life
  • You will most likely go through the “what if’s,” down the road
  • You will wonder why you didn’t go to counseling and see what a counselor could have done to help you

Now, we also have to look at advantages of working on your marriage, and believe me there are many. I was talking to a friend of mine this morning, and she said that people are giving up on their marriages and not working on them as they used to.

Next week we will continue giving you some thoughts on how to proceed in repairing your relationship with your spouse.

Do you feel like you want to end your marriage, but you’re not sure if it’s the right action to take? Are you considering a divorce because you can’t communicate and nothing seems right in your relationship? Do you need to be heard and feel like anything you say goes in one ear and out the other? Have you begged your spouse to get counseling or marriage coaching and it falls on deaf ears? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Don’t allow loneliness to control the new experiences that you can enjoy today.

Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. He can help you. He has helped people going through tough times of deciding to end a marriage or give it one more shot.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

Posted on December 12, 2017 by Dr. Mike Brooks

Categories: Confrontation, Divorce and Separation, Divorce Coaching, Marriage Relationships, Regrets in Life, Relationships