Remember Teddy Roosevelt, Jackie Robinson and Helen Keller? Are you familiar with their life stories? All these folks overcame huge obstacles in their lives. Teddy Roosevelt had severe health issues. Jackie Robinson had racism to deal with, and Helen Keller was blind and mute. If these people can overcome life’s challenges, then you certainly can too. It’s up to you! You have to believe in yourself and make things happen in your life.
I counsel men and women who blame the negative circumstances in their lives for their ongoing faults and failures. For example, they blame their divorce for the many reasons they can’t move on. I tell them that divorce is not the end of the world, but the beginning of a new chapter in life. There are times your life is going to change. Some days it’s not going to be comfortable and you will lose sleep over it. I want you to look at today and what your future holds for you. You have to grow where you are planted, as my mother would always say. We have a choice to pout and do nothing or get back up and move on to our next adventure.
I have clients who say that their disabilities prevent them from doing the things they have dreamed of. I understand that someone who has had a spine injury will most likely not play in the NFL. The physical limitations that we have to live with can restrict us from doing some activities. Take a look at Joni Erickson Tada and how she has overcome being paralyzed from the neck down. As a teenager, she enjoyed riding horses, hiking, tennis, and swimming. In July of 1967, she dove into a shallow area in the Chesapeake Bay and broker her neck. She had a fracture between her fourth and fifth cervical and became a quadriplegic. During her two years of intense rehabilitation, according to her own words, she experienced anger, depression, suicidal thoughts, and religious doubts. She was angry at life and was very discouraged. How many of you can relate with Joni?
Then something amazing happened in her life. She accepted her unfortunate circumstances and became victorious over them. She learned how to write and paint. By placing the paintbrush between her teeth and has created some incredible paintings. She has also written several books-40 to be exact-and has her own radio show. She has led the way for many who are disabled and has given them the encouragement to step out of the role of being a victim. Of you are using your physical disability or your aches and pains to prevent you from fulfilling your dreams, look no further than Joni Erickson Tada.
Another excuse I hear often is that some folks feel they can’t do what they want because of their lack of education. Many use this “victim card” which prevents them from becoming successful. I understand that many don’t have the education they want because of bad grades or lack money to go to a college, trade or a tech school. It’s never too late to go back to school. We may have to work several jobs in order to do so, but if there is a will there is a way. It’s up to you to make things happen. I have seen some disadvantaged high school students make it through college on sheer determination. They planned out their life and made their dreams happen because they didn’t want to be a victim of their circumstances. Many have successful careers as doctors and lawyers.
Do you want to better your life and don’t know how? Are you using the victim card as an excuse to not better yourself? Do you want to know the difference between being a victim and a victor? Do you want to know the traits of a winner and apply them to your life so you can be successful too? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call he can help you.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Life Coaching and Counseling Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching and counseling for those who live out of the Denver-metro area. Give Dr. Mike a call at 303.456.0555. You’ll be glad you did!