Life’s Do Overs

I got a call from a friend of mine who was going through some tough times. He was wishing for the yesteryears that many of us dream about. The do overs, the “what was I thinking” thoughts. We all have done it. As I hung up the phone, I sat back and shut my eyes and started to day dream about my past.

If I could, I would love to tell my dad and mom how much I really love them and was thankful for the love they showed me. I would sit down with them and share how much of a difference they made in my life. I never really shared my feelings with anyone growing up. We never did that in my home. I have a written note from my dad, that is framed, saying “I love you Mike”. That is a priceless note from my dad.

I would tell people who I can name, without hesitation, how much they impacted me with their unconditional love, compassion, understanding, and guidance. They come from all walks of life. Many are teachers, pastors, friends, or their parents. This is one long list.

My do overs list is long as well. I have chosen the path that I am now on, but with God’s help. He gets all the credit for protecting me, and directing my life. As I look back at my do overs list, I would have to say that telling people how much I love and care for them would have gone a long way to encouraging them during their life’s struggles.

One of my big do overs, would have been in a more active role in getting my mother to stop her drinking. With what I know now, and with the information I have, could have gone a long way in helping her quit. I have had many people that I know say they feel the same way about their loved ones. Drinking has ruined many a family.

I look back at my childhood and what would I change? Nothing. I had it pretty good looking back. How many of you look back at your childhood and reminisce on how good you had it? As a kid, I couldn’t wait to grow up. As an adult, I wish for the good old days. Seems to be a struggle for many of us. You had really no responsibilities, except for a few chores. Mine was making my bed, which I didn’t mind at all. I got to read all the books I wanted to. I could play outside with my friends, baseball, tag, riding bikes, skateboarding, be at the park all day. That was living for most of us.

Then in high school, you had sports, basketball games to go to with your friends. Going to fast food restaurants, going to pizza joints with a bunch of people you would hang out with. Life was good for most of us. Then there are the regrets. The things I should have said but didn’t. The actions I should have taken, but failed to. The gentle hugs and touches strangers needed. The smiles and grins that would have encouraged someone hurting. Those are the things that I miss and wish I could redo in my life. I remember many people who could have benefited from the simple things I could have given them. I know life is short and now, I give the simple do-overs, without any reservation. Its a hurting world my friends. Let’s work on encouraging others with our words, smiles, and hugs.

Would you like a redo in your past? What are the things you would like to change? Would you like to see kindness and encouragement back in your life? Would you like to make a difference in your circle of friends?

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