I was at my desk when the phone rang,” I can’t stand her anymore! I’m done! I’m finished! It’s over!” I sat back and listened to every reason why this man wanted a divorce. He went on to complain, “She’s not respecting me! She does not take care of our kids! She’s spending money like it’s going out of style! In fact she will not even help me take care of my mother who is disabled and lives with us. She’s a taker and not a giver. This stinks and I am totally done with her.”
I listened as he continued on for several minutes. I didn’t blame him for being angry. At some point in time we all get frustrated and need to vent and believe me, this man did. Another client of mine came to my office one afternoon fit to be tied. She couldn’t take anymore of her children disrespecting her and her husband. She said she just wanted them out of their home. I asked her how old her kids were and she said that her son was 19 and her daughter was 17.
I asked her how her kids disrespected her. She said they fuss and complain and make excuses for why they don’t help around the house. Her husband was working 60 hours a week and had no energy to argue with them and tended to leave it up to her to handle. She felt caught in the middle and wanted them out NOW! She just couldn’t take it anymore!
We all reach a point in our lives that our careers, our families, or our friendships will take a hit for various reasons. When you feel like you are at your wits end, then you should take stock of your situation and make some changes. When a situation controls you and you feel like you can’t take it any longer, then take action. What action should you take and how? Here are some examples:
- If your spouse is egging you on to have a fight and you don’t want to have a confrontation, then give yourself a time out. Walking away is the best action you can take.
- If your children are driving you crazy, then give them a timeout and let them know if they continue with their bad behavior they better expect to be sitting in a room with without iPads, Internet, or cell phones. No nothing, nada, zilch.
- If a co-worker is pushing you to quit your job and you need that job and you can’t take it anymore, then confront the one causing you problems. Meet with your manager, or owner of the company. Make sure that you have your evidence of why you are meeting with your employer.
- If a family member is causing heartache for you, then sit down with that person and let them know that you being disrespected will not be tolerated.
- Don’t do anything out of anger, out of spite, or to get even. If you can’t take it any longer, then deal with it. Problems usually don’t go away on their own. Have a civil discourse and get the problems resolved.
- Don’t let them ride because they will come back to haunt you. That, you can count on.
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